Sunday, February 14, 2010

Musings of Online Dating

As a Lonely Nerd, I often get into moods where I decide to try online dating for a few months. I'll fill out a profile, add a picture...then promptly get bored of the site. I'll talk to a couple of people, but nothing ever pans out. This isn't what this post is about though.

What this post is about is the stupidity that I have encountered in the lastest site that I've tried. I recently joined OKCupid after hearing some great reviews from a couple friends. What I found was not what I expected. Case in point: I recently received a icebreaker email from a woman that pretty much said "So apparently I'm supposed to 'break the ice'". Nothing more, nothing less. As lackluster as that introduction was, she looked cute, so I clicked over to her profile. What I found made my head hurt.

The first thing that I noticed was that she didn't want anyone who's monogamous to email her because she's polyamorous. However, in the next paragraph, she dreams about having a relationship like Edward and Bella. SERIOUSLY? Are you fraking kidding me? Somehow, polyamory doesn't seem to work very well with monogamous abstinance porn featuring vampires.

I guess the lesson of the story today is that I need to stop half-heartedly filling out online profiles and be more specific with what I'm looking for...or something.

3 comments:

  1. Hang in there... You are not alone. Just have some faith, beacause you are a wonderful person and I know that there is someone out there for you.

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  2. I was recently talking with a friend about dating sites, the pros and cons of each, etc. She described OKCupid as being "full of polyamorous libertarians, if you're into that kind of thing."

    And obviously this girl meant to say she was looking for a relationship like Edward, Bella AND Jacob. It's not a threesome without a werewolf.

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  3. As one of the friends who gave OkCupid a good review (my sister having met her husband through there, and another friend her fiancee), I wholeheartedly apologize for recommending it. I met some nice enough people through the site myself, but apparently it has been taken over by Twilophiles during in my two-plus years' absence.

    I wish you the best with your future online dating (ad)ventures, and take heart. After all, for the majority of my first 29 years, I was a lonely nerd floundering through online dating sites, and then I unexpectedly happened upon the future Mrs. Cap'n. It can happen for you, too.

    Well, except for the "Cap'n" part.

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